Online Dating Tips

What I Got from a Toronto Dating Service

Toronto is a hip young city, but I found that it’s hard to meet other local singles there. I have gotten only a few dates, even if I have been there for a year. It is not that people are unfriendly because Canadians are one of the friendliest people in the whole wide world. Maybe it has some thing to do with the huge size of this city.

In this modern day and age, everyone live busy lives, and knows so many casual friends. It seems that they are all perfectly at ease with the idea of never meeting another person again in their whole life. A few months ago, I signed up for my first Toronto dating service because it has gotten to the point where I am desperate for a date.

I signed up for a Toronto dating service that was a pretty standard run-of-the-mill service. I can communicate to a wide variety of people in my area with this service. Each person would put up a sort of personal ad or a profile that contains information about who they were and what they were looking for in that Toronto dating service. I also have to provide my picture, age, and other relevant stuff to my profile.

The Toronto dating service also allowed me to browse the profiles of other singles. I can send messages to anyone who caught my eye. There was no pressure on them to pursue a date with me because they did not know who I was or where I lived. Of course, they can respond or not as they pleased to my messages.

Before I made up my mind, I realized that I should try out a few more dating services. The next Toronto dating service I tried had a sort of a matchmaker thing going. The matchmaker would look at your profile, compare it to those of everyone else in its data pool, and then decide whether or not you were compatible with that person.

You and the other person will receive information about each other, if the matchmaker decides that the both of you are compatible. It will even set up a location for you to meet and get to know each other better. I have met a lot of wonderful girls through this Toronto dating service. Any local singles who are looking for love in the cleanest big city should also try this service.

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posted by pagmanny @ 12:43 AM 0 comments

Frustrated With Online Dating? Nobody Checkin' You Out?

If you want to meet someone online, there’s one thing that you’ll definitely want to do - post a good, recent, smiling photo of yourself. If you can post more than one, even better!

Why upload your photo? A Picture Is Worth 1000 Emails. Statistics have consistently shown that profiles with photos get a minimum of 10 times more looks. Many (actually most) people only search for profiles with photos. (Admit it. You do it too.) That means that if you don’t have a photo, people are not going to look at your profile. You might as well delete it, close out you account on Match.com, and head to you favorite bar.

I understand that you may be a little afraid to post your picture on the internet , but it will be very difficult to meet anyone worthwhile online without one. Think about it…. Put yourself in someone else’s place. Would you contact someone without a photo? When you search, don’t you want to see people with pictures?

The old saying that a picture is worth a 1000 words still applies. Your age, height, and hobbies may sound cool, but is that enough to pay cold hard cash to contact you?

Even if someone does contact you, the first thing they’ll want to know is what you look like . Also, many people don’t really trust the internet and may feel that you’re hiding something if you don’t post a photo - like your spouse and kids. They may assume you’re cheating on your partner or even that you’re a criminal.

Your photo makes you ‘real’. It gives you an identity. With online dating, your photo can create a spark or chemistry that mere words cannot. Remember, most dating sites charge money to communicate with someone, so making that step to contact you or to respond to your message involves a bit of commitment, and not having a picture is just one more reason not to do it.

Just like updating your profile frequently, posting a photo will often get you placed at the top of the search results - above members without photos .

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. One reason you might not post a photo is because you think you’re ugly, or fat, or unattractive in some way. First of all, you’re probably wrong. Don’t worry about how you look. You’ll have to show yourself eventually! Even the best looking people look ugly when they don’t smile. So smile! If you’re not conventionally attractive, a confident, genuine smile can only do you good.

There are lots of techniques to make sure your photo is the best it can be. You can crop or otherwise enhance you photo to make sure that your best side shows through. Most digital cameras come with free software that will help you do basic photo editing. Even if you use a 35mm camera and take to the store for development, most film developers offer the option of a digital CD of your pictures.

Tips for Winning Photos Use a recent photo . Even if you looked better when you were 20 pounds lighter and five years younger, the moment your date sees you in real life, they’ll realize that you have lied to them. Yes LIED! That’s how the other person will perceive it.

Use a good camera. Even though most cell phones these days take photos, they often turn out fuzzy or dim. If you don’t have a good camera, get creative. Ask a friend to take your picture or go to photographer and have a professional photo taken (Isn’t it worth it to invest in a professional photo if it brings you your dream partner?). Head shots are best - we want to see your face. Really!

Your picture should be fun, sexy, and interesting - not a mug shot and not pornographic either (unless you on an adult site, like AdultFriendFinder, that encourages that sort of photo). Many people, however, are turned off by overly sexy photos.

DON’T post a photo of you and your ex or a photo where your ex has been cut out or colored out. This implies that you have no pictures of yourself where there isn’t some other person attached to you. It also implies that people are disposable to you - not good!

Avoid posting photos with your kids. I know they’re important to you (I love mine unconditionally), but giving them too much prominence in your profile leads others to think you’re looking for a replacement dad or mom, rather than a partner for yourself. Mention them in the profile and then send pictures if your prospect expresses interest. Having said that, if you’re looking for a replacement mom or dad - be honest about that too and save yourself the grief and heartache later on.

Need A Professional Quality Digital Photo? Here are two websites that will take your picture for you. I was amazed by what these guys can do and highly recommend them.

LookBetterOnline - Professional Internet Dating Photographers DatingHeadshots - Internet Dating Headshots

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Wedding Favors, a Special Thank You for your Guests

by: David Chandler
Wedding favors are as unique and varied as the couples whose marriage they commemorate. From shot glasses to chocolate roses, coasters to napkin holders, the bride to be has literally hundreds of ideas to choose from.


Wedding favors have been a part of traditional wedding ceremonies dating back to the 16th century. The newlywed couple presents a gift to their guests as gestures of gratitude for having attended their wedding and participating in the couple's new life together.


The wedding favor may vary according to culture, wealth, the interest of the couple, or can be centered on the theme of the wedding. The ideas for a wedding favor are limitless. A bottle of vintage wine with a personalized label is a nice wedding favor for those couples with a large budget, or a simply made personalized candle is a nice gift.


My parents showed me a unique wedding favor they received at my cousin's wedding. The bride and groom had taken the time to have the music at their ceremony recorded on compact disk, and the guests were all given one as a keepsake. All they needed to do to re-live that special day is to pop in the disk and press play.


Whether you choose to record a compact disk of your ceremony, or seed packets, or chocolate roses, your unique wedding favor will help those who love you remember your wedding day. A unique wedding favor is a special thank you gift that will bring warmth, love, and joy to your friends and family for years to come.


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Dating Advice: Love Shouldn't Hurt

by: Terry Hernon MacDonald
"Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain." -Gloria Steinem, "Revolution from Within."

If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the couch), you may be confusing love with pain.

So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat, boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after a fight with a significant other?)

A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don't recognize it when we see it, or because we simply believe it's not possible (News Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I wasn't aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don't you?).

According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays, being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they're transfixed before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages: That's the way men are. That's the way life is. Get over it.

And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our own experiences.

Some of us:

(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children, (d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered from a mental illness.

And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It's all we knew.

Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:

(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends' parents who were unhappily married, or

(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who, during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and started reading a porn magazine!).

As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we'll accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it's better than being alone, right?

Wrong.

If you're putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and stay there.

Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they haven't determined the kind of men you attract.

You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you, you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be loved--and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if they're accompanied by pain, something's wrong. You'll never be truly happy with a guy who lets you down.

Ask yourself, "Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?"

Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?

"Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain." -Gloria Steinem, "Revolution from Within."

If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the couch), you may be confusing love with pain.

So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat, boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after a fight with a significant other?)

A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don't recognize it when we see it, or because we simply believe it's not possible (News Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I wasn't aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don't you?).

According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays, being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they're transfixed before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages: That's the way men are. That's the way life is. Get over it.

And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our own experiences.

Some of us:

(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children, (d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered from a mental illness.

And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It's all we knew.

Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:

(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends' parents who were unhappily married, or

(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who, during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and started reading a porn magazine!).

As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we'll accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it's better than being alone, right?

Wrong.

If you're putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and stay there.

Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they haven't determined the kind of men you attract.

You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you, you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be loved--and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if they're accompanied by pain, something's wrong. You'll never be truly happy with a guy who lets you down.

Ask yourself, "Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?"

Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?

posted by pagmanny @ 4:41 AM 0 comments

Dating Ideas For The Holidays

First dates never cease to be the one of the most thrilling events in one's life. However, dating can become boring if one allows it to be. Here are a few dating ideas that will surely make dating like a shiny new pair of shoes.

First dates never cease to be the one of the most thrilling events in one-s life. However, dating can become boring if one allows it to be. Here are a few dating ideas that will surely make dating like a shiny new pair of shoes.

1. Island Picnic If you have the moolah, you can always get travel arrangements and head to a deserted island. A simple picnic on a not-so simple island will give your dating life that kick you have always been waiting for. This will be very much appreciated by married couples as well.

2. Food Tripping Date You don-t have to spend so much if you will be only going to fast food chains. But it is a lot more fun to go restaurant-hopping and sampling each restaurant-s specialties. Don-t forget to skip some heavy snacks before doing this kind of date.

3. Wine Sampling This could be more enjoyable if you are in a European country where all sorts of wines abound. However, many private wineries are springing up all over the place. Do your homework and see if you can find a local winery close to your location. Just make sure that you are not alcohol-intolerant to enjoy this dating idea.

4. Learn Something New Learning a new skill could be handy. Learning a new skill with someone else is a surefire way to conjure an exciting mood during the date. Think Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze, except neither of you is a ghost, of course!

5. Window Shopping Who says only women could enjoy this kind of date? Even if it is not a first date, as long as the guy also gets to go to the stores he likes visiting, it could be one fun time for the both of you. Also, it can make you both learn each others preferences when it comes to material things. Hint: gift hunches.

6. Truth or Dare Date Pick a place to go to. Then while heading to that area, you can have fun learning about each other-s secrets while playing truth or dare.

7. Sports Date Go hiking, golfing, mountain-climbing or just about anything that makes you both tick. This is one of those feel-good date ideas since sports induce the production of that body chemical that makes you feel good. Sweet! With those ideas, you will never run out of new and enthralling activities to do. Just be creative.

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