Online Dating Tips

Online Finding Of Attractive Place For Dating

By: Ernest R. Peterson

Ah, the world of online dating. There used to be a huge stigma attached to those looking for love through the classifieds, but that is slowly changing. I know quite a few people who have found love online, and some of them did it with online dating personals. I know what you are thinking, but it’s not true. These folks are rather attractive, and have great lives. Love isn’t always where you need it to be, and sometimes, even the most attractive and fun loving people have a hard time finding the person of their dreams.

Online dating personals are tricky though. There are a lot of phony people out there, and you may have a hard time choosing the good over the bad. So many people put up a front, either with a fake profile or a fake photo, and use this to meet people who may not normally give them the time of day. Just the same, there are just as many normal folks who are being up front and honest, and they may be just what you want.

You have to read online dating personals with a degree of hesitancy. You may find many that ring true with you, and you may find some seem to be deceitful. Always go with your gut instinct when perusing online dating personals. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Don’t forget about the weirdoes out there. Some people place online dating personals for things other than dating. Watch out for facts that don’t seem to ring true, and a bad feeling in your gut.

When placing your own online dating personals, remember that honesty is the best policy all the way around. If you use a false photo, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. If someone thinks you look one way, but find out you are a completely different person, they aren’t going to be able to trust you. Without trust, there is no hope for a long-term relationship. Also remember that you want someone who likes you for who you are, not because they like how you look in your photo. That should only be part of the store.

You can find plenty of great online dating personals out there, just be choosey about where you look. Look over a site well before you place your own online dating personals, and remember to be open and honest, and be clear about what you are looking for in another person. So many sites have online dating personals, but so many don’t go any further than that. This is why you have to take the time to take care of yourself. Who know? You may indeed find the person of your dreams.

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Conscious Dating Online: Balancing High Tech with High Touch

By: David Steele
In a new trend, singles are becoming increasingly frustrated with internet dating. In spite of millions of singles using the internet and the promises and success stories of online matchmaking websites, I've heard the same thing over and over from singles across the country who are frustrated with internet dating-

"It's great to have a lot of choices, but it takes a lot of time and I don't seem to meet anyone I have much chemistry with."

This makes sense to me. In some ways, using a computer to find your soul mate is like trying to cook a souffle in a microwave. Some things just require time, effort, and the human touch.

This article explores the upsides and downsides of internet dating, attempts to explain why internet dating is frustrating for some singles, and suggests alternatives.

Top Five Advantages of Internet Dating

1. Reach more singles

2. Inexpensive (relatively)

3. Enough information available for efficient sorting

4. Anonymous

5. Easy to control most aspects of the process

Top Five Downsides of Internet Dating

1. Overwhelming number of choices

2. Encourages "shopping" mentality

3. Many users are less than truthful

4. Some users are game players, predators. cheaters

5. Complacency- tempting to rely on the internet and exclude other options

The Internet, Chemistry, and the Law of Attraction

Today's singles seem to be relying on their computer a bit too much and complacently expecting the internet to deliver their soul mate. This is a version of the Fairytale Trap (one of fourteen dating traps in my book "Conscious Dating"). The internet is a wonderful tool (I use it!) but doesn't seem to work effectively as the -only- tool for finding potential partners.

I believe that the two biggest reasons why the internet isn't effective for many singles is the role of chemistry and the Law of Attraction.

Chemistry is critically important for a successful relationship. Everyone wants a partner they feel strong chemistry with, and a relationship would be pretty dry and unsustainable without it. The Fourth Principle of Conscious Dating is "Balance Your Heart With Your Head." Identifying your requirements, needs, and wants does not minimize the need for chemistry. You need both! I like to think of chemistry as the radar that helps you find your target, then you use your requirements, needs and wants to decide "yes" or "no."

The Law of Attraction is inescapable and either works for you or against you. If you're "busy" or "shy" and the internet is your only means of reaching potential partners, in a way you're hiding behind your computer and the Law of Attraction is not likely to help you. The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like" and "energy follows attention," meaning your results reflect your thoughts and your actions. Over the years I've become convinced that the Law of Attraction is a powerful law of the Universe, like gravity. Just like "what goes up must come down," try as you might, you can't avoid or change the principle that "like attracts like."

If you're hiding behind your computer, what people, relationships, and results are you likely to attract?

Top Five Ways to Supplement High Tech with High Touch

1. Use your support community

Most people find their soul mate through someone they know, so don't be a lone ranger (another dating trap!) and lean on your friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors to assist you to meet potential partners.

2. Start a dating pool or networking group

Get a group of singles together (any gender mix) to support each other to meet potential partners. Most singles know lots of other singles of both genders, so pool your resources and do some matchmaking for each other!

3. Reach out to people

In today's busy world with cell phones, texting, instant messaging, e-mail, and the internet promoting impersonal ways of interacting with others, it's easy to forget the lost art of engaging with real people that are right in front of you. Make an effort to reach out to the people you come into contact with in your everyday life and watch your relationships blossom.

4. Make more friends

Since most people find their soul mate through someone they know, be open to developing new friendships and expanding your support community. Chances are you already have acquaintances at work and other places that you would enjoy spending more time with. Friends are easier to find than dates, and friendships often last longer than romantic relationships!

5. Get involved

Too many singles lead isolated lives centered around work, home, and a few friends. Participating in clubs, groups, classes, charities, church/temple, is the most important way you can leverage the Law of Attraction to help you find your soul mate. You'll meet new people, make new friends, and pursue hobbies and interests important to you that bring you in contact with other compatible singles.

It's All About Relationships

Technology can help us in many ways. Online dating is a wonderful tool that allows you to leverage your time and meet many more people than you could otherwise. However, let's not forget that humans are social beings and finding your life partner is a relationship goal that is probably more effectively acheived by getting away from your computer as welll as using it. You're more likely to find relationship fulfillment by living a full, rich life among real people doing the things you enjoy that make your life meaningful.

As the ancient Roman playwright Terence once said- "Moderation in all things." Do you think he meant the internet as well?

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